Some may say that texting is not a good idea when dating someone and that you should make phone calls or see each other. That is all fine and dandy but I believe that if done properly, texting just adds fun and some great laughs if done right. I also think that different forms of communication are better for different people.
One thing that I happen to be good at is answering people via text. I hate talking on the phone but if someone emails or texts me, they will hear back from me quickly. I am not one to leave someone hanging or to let them feel stupid for texting when they get nothing in return.
A while back I was dating someone who did not have text etiquette and this was hard for me as I try to be prompt and thoughtful and long for someone to return the effort. I would try to flirt or have fun and I would just hear crickets in return. I felt so stupid time and time again for putting myself out there. To my face this person claimed they were interested in me but then they were never very anxious to hear from me or to answer a text. I tried to be understanding but I felt stupid one time too many and knew I couldn't keep being ignored that way.
I should make this clear - I did not do the over texting thing where you make the other person afraid of you. :) I know that most men don't want to have long conversation over text and either do I. However, it doesn't kill anyone to send a smiley face back to someone. It goes a long way just to acknowledge someone.
Some men may consider that high maintenance - for a girl to expect to be responded to. However, if men want us to put up with some of their strange habits (which we would gladly do and we all have our weird things) then they could at least be courteous.
This of course does not apply when someone is working or at a family function or something like that. We all need to realize that you can't expect someone to be tied to their phone 24/7. You have to be reasonable.
The saddest part was that I actually liked the guy who wouldn't even humor me. But, lesson learned. I need what I need that way and knowing that hopefully I will be able to see someone else's needs and meet them when the time comes. After all, the fun of dating and relationships is being there for each other and learning what makes the other person tick. It is fascinating and fun if you are just willing to put some effort into it.
One last note - the booty call text is never ok for girls or guys. If you are still doing the booty call routine please save all of humanity and stop pretending like you want a relationship. This goes for the drunk texters as well. :)
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