Here's the Deal

I have a lot of people ask me what I am or am not looking for a guy.  I kind of know more what I can't deal with at this point and I have some things I think would be nice but I'm not holding my breath.

Here is what counts to me (there is no way I will think of everything here):

• If you ask me on a date - pay.  If I ask you - I pay.  I don't generally choose to spend my money that way and love to cook yummy food so when I ask you over for dinner it isn't for sex, it is really to treat you to a decent dinner.  I am not cheap but in the first two to three months I wanna clearly know that you aren't a penny pincher!  But not every date has to cost you if you are creative.  
• Get to know me.  Don't assume that because I work from home that I don't work just as hard as you.  I am a mom as well as having an actual business life.  I don't sit and eat Doritos all day.  And if you don't have a job I can't take you on.  I think stability is more sexy than abs or trendy clothes.
• If one of us contacts the other in any format, let's answer each other if we are actually interested.  It's exhausting trying to be a mind reader and it is fun and flattering to know that someone wants to hear from you or that you make them smile.  All these rules about how long to wait to respond are so stupid.  Just do it and get it off of your "to do" list!  Geez!  We're not getting any younger!  
• I don't like being texted or called after 10 pm unless we are at a stage where I know you well enough to know you are not just doing the booty call call/text.
• I don't want someone who can't see how soft my heart is and when they do, if it scares them then I am not for them.  I am not a whimp, I hold my own and I am a very strong woman but if you can't just sit there and hold me and be on my side for 10 minutes then you are not for me.
• Laughter is key to most things.  Lost?  Laugh.  Mad?  Laugh.  Having a bad day?  Laugh.  I'm fine with hearing out what has happened to put you in a mood but then let's put it on a shelf if we can and laugh it off so it doesn't steal our moments!  Too much light hearted fun and peace to have!
• If someone doesn't know how I feel for them then I am sorry and would love for them to ask.  If I am interested you in a dating and/or future way I would gladly tell you!  I don't believe in games.  I like people to get to know each other, not spend time decrypting thoughts.
• If you are selfish, must always be right, have no sense of what it really takes to be in a real family, if you can't sacrifice, empathize or see the needs and fill them without me orchestrating it all then you are most likely not going to be happy in this life of mine.  
• I should clarify.  I don't expect a man to come in and be daddy dearest and start doing honey do projects all the time.  I would like it to start with little random sweet things though.  Dating is so much fun if you bother to be thoughtful and take a moment.
• I love thoughtfulness.  Extravagance is nothing to me but the thought is huge.  I love flowers, perfume, most thoughtful things.  Even a cozy sweater.

Most of all I want, to not grow old alone.  I want to please someone and make them feel good about themselves and for them to love our life that we make together.  I would love someone who could come in and like my kids and be able to go with the flow.  I like the idea of family, of being in it together.  I love the idea of weekends away where it is just me and this guy like the only two people on earth.  I am lucky that my life allows that now!

Come camp with me, make love with me under the stars, experience new things together (no, not new STD's lol)

I am not a load of drama but on the off chance that I want to be heard or just need a minute, if you give me five I will be just fine.  To be honest I have very little drama in my life.  And I like it that way.

More than anything in the world, I wanna make you happy.  I take great pride in making another happy and fulfilling their needs.  I can't wait to find someone who will be open enough to let me into their lives at a level that I don't feel like a visitor but like someone they really want there.  :)

This was a rambling!  Thanks for putting up with me!

Hope your weekend is amazing!!!

PS - not proof reading this so I apologize!

What I am sure of.

There are so many articles and books on how to play the dating game.  What if you took this year and stopped playing games all together?

Maybe you would find someone sincere and honest.  Maybe you would know where you each stood with each other and what you meant to each other because you could say it instead of playing the big mind games.

Maybe you would know that someone was excited to hear from you because you allowed yourself to show your excitement by responding sooner rather than later?

I'm not one to throw all caution to the wind with dating but I love where I am with a certain someone in my life because I can tell this guy how I feel and what I think.  It isn't a game at all, it's my life and my happiness and I handle that with care.  It's also his life and his happiness and I should show some respect and not waste his time.

Start fresh this year.  Just be you, let him just be him and enjoy your time together and if you don't enjoy it, it is just fine to tell someone that you need to move along in life.

Have an awesome January!!!