Crickets

I hear crickets when it comes to my dating life.  I'm not complaining, this was done on purpose.  I deliberately took myself off the market for a while.  Dating is hideous.  I thought I had found someone great to spend time with but if that person isn't even excited to see or talk to me then what is the use?  Crickets.  :)  Don't get me wrong - great guy - he just didn't seem to be that into me.

I'm a romantic dork.  I want flowers, great music, good kissing, and I want to feel adored.  Who doesn't?  I get that those things don't happen daily - I am not completely delusional.  However, I do think it is practical to want a man who is thoughtful and who makes you feel like he would rather be with you than anywhere else.  I don't want to be some guys filler date aka warm body. 

In other news, I see people around me making horrible decisions that make me want to refrain from dating for even longer.  One friend of mine desperately wanted to make a connection with a guy that she knows and likes.  I guess he is very kind to her and he is great looking.  She asked what she should do and I told her that should he want to date her that wild horses wouldn't stop him.  He would make it happen.  She did not wait - she asked him to her home to make him dinner with her children there.  They had a great friendly evening but she knew right then and there that friends was as far as it was going to get.  I was a good girl and didn't say "I told you so". 

A guilty pleasure of mine is watching the Millionaire Matchmaker.  She has some good tips.  When talking to a very smallish gay man (who she was screening for a client) he went on and on about how great he was but she had to point out to him that if he was over six feet tall and had endless money would he really choose him to be with?  This was a painful question but he immediately said "I understand".  He needs to look for someone more like him in every way. 

Another girlfriend of mine still pines and longs for a man who cheated on her.  She has asked recently when that awful feeling inside of missing him so much will go away.  I didn't reply to her at all because in my experience it doesn't really go away.  You always love someone and you love the idea of them and the future you talked about building.  It's a tough one trying to get over someone that you know is not good for you.

Anyway, maybe I will get back on the dating wagon soon.  I do want a relationship but I don't want to be completely taken over by it and I don't want a man to give up his independence for me.  I just want to work well together, be twitterpated and respect each other.  :)  Is that too much to ask?