You may have seen the movie or read the book "He's Just Not That Into You". If you did you may have thought it was hilarious like my girlfriends do. Or, you may have thought it was irritating like I did the first time around. However, wondering what fun I was missing, I gave the movie another chance this weekend.
What I love about the movie is how it shows how everyone of us sits by the phone and when someone says they will call, we believe it. Or if someone says they want to "hangout" we think they mean in the near future. Dating signals and games are so confusing!!!
I also love how the movie shows the wife who knows her husband is lying about something and she is almost crazed by it. At first you think she is just a few sandwiches short of a picnic but any wife who knows that feeling inside that you are being lied to will know EXACTLY what she feels. Being lied to or having your intelligence underestimated is a horrific and scarring issue.
What caught me especially funny this weekend was that just after watching that movie I was talking to my mom about a man who hasn't called me but says he will. She says that he is probably just intimated or doesn't have the confidence. The movie instantly shoots into my mind about all the women consoling each other with such words when the fact is: if he wants to go out with you, he will make it happen.
Men may have confidence issues or maybe they do feel intimated but so do we and yet women will take it upon themselves to seek out a man. This is a hang up of mine. If you don't make him do the chasing, you will not view him as masculine for long. You will always wonder if he wants you or if you landed in his lap and he is dealing with it. I, for one, need to know that I was sought after and that I hold a place that no one else fills. Who doesn't want to feel that?
Bottom line if a man reads this: If you want her you better make it happen because if she does the work you are doomed. She will not respect you. She will say that all is well but in the back of her mind she wishes you would be a real MAN and take charge. And if she is always in charge you have too many issues to cover in a blog post.