The Guy That Snapped

Most of the time I have found that anyone who has to tell you how laid back they are all the time (like trying to convince themselves and you) means that they are not so mellow in reality.  This is the case with a certain guy I know.

I had this guy contact me online.  We hit it off in our emails.  We had quite a lot in common, same family values and we were from the same general area so we plenty to visit about.  We emailed and texted for a long time and we had a few phone calls.  That sounds weird but I hate talking on the phone and the first phone call I had with this guy was three hours long and I wasn't inclined to do it again.

At first I communicated with this guy to be polite and then after talking with my mom and sister in law about it I tried to be open to more.  I mean he was pretty stable and it didn't seem like he came to the table with many problems.  I don't need someone perfect, I just don't want some crazy ex who stalks us or other crazy people.

So, I continued to communicate and all was well.  We made some form of contact daily and he was always very nice to me. 

Then I asked if he had to work on a certain holiday and there it went, all that laid back talk left the building.  He said that he did have to work but then he went off on the taxes being taken out of his paycheck.  I get the frustration but it just came out of nowhere and then it didn't stop.  He went on and on about how our government was nothing but a fraud and how they made up stuff about 9/11 and more. 

Now, there was a little bit of truth in what he was saying but he sounded like a total nut job.  I wish I had kept the conversation (text) so that I could post it here.  He just went off on our country and it's leaders and while I don't think they are perfect, I do believe that bitching about it doesn't solve the problem.  You wanna change it then do your part and change it but quit crying.

Anyway, even after I clearly stated that we needed to "agree to disagree" he kept going trying to convert me to his views.  It actually made me mad that someone couldn't just respect me enough to stop.  I don't care if you share my ideas and views but lets not try to convert each other.  Sharing ideas is fun, bashing - not so much!

Luckily, this whole thing died a natural death after that.  It literally caused me to want to disengage in every way.  All the months of kindness and easy going just went out the window when this guy started talking crazy. 

Bottom line - I knew better about online contacts.  I just had this weird feeling that this guy might have been different.  In the end he sure was different, just not in a way I could handle.  :)