While dating is fun, it is also like filling a job position. You have to find out as much about a person as you can while you enjoy their company. This doesn't mean that you act as an interrogator so that every conversation is 20 questions. This does mean that the longer you date the more you should be thinking about this person as a long term fixture in your life (husband). These apply to men as well.
Having been married for a long time there are a few things that I wish I had known or even asked about way back. Some of the questions that I have come up were ones I did ask and was glad to know the answers to. Keep in mind that this isn't all you should know about a person, it is a place to start. I hope it helps!
1. Is he close to his mother and keep in touch or do thoughtful things for her?
2. Does he have an education and career plan in place and is he headed in the right direction? (I think this should be by 30 but hey, if you want to raise someone go ahead.)
3. Do you share the same value system or religion?
4. Do you have the same views on how your children will be raised if you have kids?
5. Will he/does he earn enough to support you if you choose to not work outside of the home?
6. Does he show leadership qualities in his personal life?
7. Does he show initiative and take charge or does he wait around?
8. What is his arguing style? Are you both resolution oriented?
9. Does he have hobbies that you support?
10. Is he honest in every way with everyone around him including you?
11. Do you agree on money management issues?
12. Will he support you in your education and/or career?
13. Does he take accountability for his part in his past relationship failures?
14. How does he talk about others including his parents and ex?
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