I have a friend who gave a guy my phone number because they thought we would be great together. This guy sent me a text to introduce himself which I appreciated as I HATE talking on the phone. Plus, I wouldn't have answered his call because I don't know his number. We had a conversation over text for a few days. He then asks me out. I told him I was a little unavailable this week (I mean month but was trying to be kind) and then he told me that he was on a construction job out of town and wondered if he could pay for me to come to him and he would put me up in a hotel room.
While this may seem kind at first glance it offended me on about a million levels. First, I have four kids and I don't have time off from them. So, where does he think I would put these children while I go off to vacation for a first date? He is a parent and yet this didn't occur to him.
Second, who in their right mind goes off for days on end to a place they haven't been and lets a stranger put them in a hotel room? I am not a whore. I don't even think I possess the slut gene and so I wonder where he got the idea that this would be okay with me.
Third, in the conversation about this he complained about the cost of something so I can just imagine how nice the hotel room would be that he got me should I go. Men who talk about the price of everything send a very big CHEAP signal out into the world. It isn't that most of us want lavish things or expect for a man to pay for everything 100% of the time. However, you have to avoid appearing cheap. This just tells me that you will spend all the money you want on things you desire but for others there is a limit, not very endearing. Every girl wants to feel like she is worth whatever it takes. It doesn't mean we expect you to spend your whole pay check on us but we want to believe that you would.
When I think of running off with this so called "man" I envision a hotel room with one 20 watt light bulb and mold growing in the shower. I imagine a bed with little hairs in it that make you afraid to get in but the comforter isn't a better option so maybe sleep is not an option. I also envision a lot of dollar menu cuisine for food because he is so put out financially over the 20 watt hotel room. Luckily, I am not in need of a Pretty Woman experience on any financial level. He is out of luck.
After being turned down for the wonderful vacation he asked if he could see me when he gets back to town. Even if I were not on dating strike I would NEVER go out with this man after he even indulged the idea that I was a girl who would travel and be put up by a guy for a first date. I was not mean to him though, I was gracious and let him think he had been very generous with his offer. I will never know why I think it is best to be nice when someone has been a total idiot. I think I get this trait from my mother. Who, I might add, would go crazy if she thought I had left town to shack up with some guy I didn't know for a first date.
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