Conversation 101

There are some key things I have noticed on dates about conversation that can make or break a date.

1.  Don't ever ask a girl "Why are you still single?".  This is such a turn off.  You may think it is flattering but it isn't.  Most of us would rather be happy in a relationship with the right person but if we have not yet found the right person then so what?  Consider it your lucky day but quit making a big deal out of it because quite frankly it is like asking what is wrong with us that a guy hasn't kept us around.  Some of us just aren't willing to keep guys around for the sake of having a guy.

2.  Conversation is like ping pong.  Have you ever been on that date where you do all the work in a conversation and you end up knowing all about the other person and yet you don't feel like they know anything about you except what you choose to drink with dinner?  The conversation cannot be all one sided or you can kiss the other person goodbye (you would be lucky to even get a kiss).  You need to draw the other person out but you don't want to be interrogating.  This is not an interview, it is a heartfelt conversation and the other party can tell if you are not sincere.  Don't approach this like you are hiring a housekeeper.

3.  Touching is great.  Putting your hand on someones hand or arm during a conversation makes you come off as warm and affectionate instead of rigid and cold.  It is a sure sign that you are interested.  Beware though, keep the touching in safe zones on your first date and possibly for a few after that depending on how the person reacts.  I have had guys think that they can feel me up on the first date or the second and I may not freak out on them at the time but in my mind I am thinking that they are using me and that they think so little of me that they view me as a piece of a** and nothing more.  Not a good sign.  Even if we let you get far with us physically you are destined to lose us because we have your number and most likely we don't just want you for your body.  If more men would use some patience here (even if a woman is game), it would pay off in the end.  You show us that you respect us and that you are actually into us and we will likely give you the moon. 

Last note.  If you are going to have conversation and ask questions be sure you are paying attention and remember what the person says to you.  It's okay if you don't remember it all exactly but you need to retain a lot of it or you will come off as uncaring.