This may sting a little (or a lot) but it is true. There are some sure signs when someone is into you and when they aren't. Don't keep trying to convince yourself that he is into you if all signs are telling you that he isn't. Don't worry - he isn't the last man that will ever come calling.
Signs that he's not into you:
1. He does publicly show affection but is all over you in private. If he is afraid of other people's opinions to this degree then he doesn't care about you enough. Move on.
2. You are at his house a lot but nothing there belongs to you OR you are never at his home. This is all a matter of him letting you into his life. If you are in his home a lot and don't even keep a toothbrush there then you have a serious problem. Likewise, if he has a home and you are never invited or don't feel welcome to drop by, be afraid.
3. If his computer, phone or chat messages are always hidden or he shuts them all down when you are around then there is a problem. This is either a sign that he has other women on the line or that he doesn't trust you with even tiny things. Most likely it is a sign of a player and you need to get out.
4. He goes to events and to group things and you are not invited. If he isn't trying to make you part of his life and doesn't welcome your company then he isn't into you enough to keep him around. If you are not included in his social life outside of your one on one dates then you are a side note, otherwise known as an option. You aren't important enough to him for him to make you part of his circle of friends, family or work life.
5. He doesn't like to commit to a plan. If he is always waiting until the last minute to firm things up, you need a knew partner. This isn't just for dates. If he can't invite you to anything solid that is more than seven days out on the calendar then he doesn't see you as part of his future. If this is a problem early on in your dating you should know that it will not get better even after marriage. It will just hurt you more.
6. He doesn't even pretend to like your pet. Some people are pet people and some are not. That's fine but if you have pets or children and he can't even put on party manners then he is not for you.
7. If you are talking and he is looking at other women. I like to people watch more than anyone but if someone is talking to you, they deserve your attention.
8. He takes forever to return calls, emails or text messages. First of all, no one should be left hanging out there when it comes to communication but this is more true in dating than at any other time. In this day and age of smart phones and computers and tablets being everywhere, if he was into you, he would be answering in a very timely manner. Since texting is the most non-committal form of communication and he can't even do that - you need to run. If he says he just isn't a big texter then he shouldn't have a text plan on his cell phone. People text now, that's just life. If you are on his priority list, then he will text back in a quick manner. With that said, he should be calling you to make date plans or to have major conversations. Texting doesn't cover everything. And you should not be initiating all the communication. He should be anxious to talk with you!
9. He won't leave the room without taking his phone. This is a bad sign on a million levels. Really, if you need clarification you need counseling.
10. You always end up at his place and never yours or the other way around. There should be give and take here no matter what your situation is.
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