The online dating scene did not do it for me and I eventually cancelled all accounts. Why? Because it was making me angry and cynical and I am not normally either! I am usually almost delusionally optimistic and have all the hope in the world.
Guys my age seem to have (in general) a few things in common: they are all going through some mid life garbage to which I say grow up and get over it, it isn't about you. They are wanting a fun time and to not have to be responsible in every way (not just a court appointed way) for the kids they already brought into the world before bringing new people into their lives. They want women who will put kids second to them at all costs. I am not impressed. Worst of all they do not want to be held accountable to anyone for anything.
Because of this cynical attitude and the people in my life making some decisions that I can't wrap my head around, I guess the dating world can wait for me. Because the right man would be what is best for me, my kids and my ex because we were a family first and will always have to work together on some level. And likewise, I would be what would better his situation. Yes, there would be trials on both sides, but I want to choose someone where the path has less challenges or at least more pros than cons. Most of all, my kids are not in a place to be messed with right now. They are doing so good. How could I call myself a good mother if for my own selfish gain I threw a wrench into their path despite knowing what it would do to them.
I want them to see that there is a time and a place for dating. This is not my time because they are not ready. I know them and it won't be long before they can handle it but it needs to be handled with care. It isn't about me anymore, it is about them. And I have to go to sleep knowing I did my best by them.
In the meantime, I will write about some odd and quirky situations I know of from friends and family who are dating.
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